Thursday, March 31, 2016

Breaking Me Down

These kids are.  I just don't know what else to do?  We talked to them, yell at them, take toys and privileges away.  We've taken them to the park to run off their energy, but nothing's working.  I refuse to spank, because I don't believe it actually does anything except make the parent feel like they're doing something, and spread fear (keeping in mind that I was beaten as a kid, although my dad called it "spanking", and sometimes he could do it in such a way that it wouldn't leave marks.  Overall, I don't condemn others for doing it, as long as it's spanking and it actually works, that it just doesn't give you an outlet for your frustrations.  However, for us, it's not an option).

Past two months, they've:

  • Ripped off their closet doors, even after we installed child-locks on them.  These shitty walls are so weak that it didn't take much.  
  • They flipped over their dresser, moved it around the room and used it as a stool.  It's an big heavy wooden antique, too!  We literally had to strap the drawers close and anchor it to the closet rack.  
  • Now they're moving their beds around, removing the mattress and finding the weak spots.  How do you strap a bed down to a floor?  Because it's getting to that point.  
We don't have a lot of space to keep moving things around.  Our tiny hallway is cluttered with toys, extra blankets, clothes, and the closet doors, and other things we've already taken out of their room.  

I don't know what to do anymore.  Nothing's working.  And I'm getting tired of hearing, "Well, they're boys"  because girls can be just as destructive.  It's a fucking excuse and I'm tired of hearing it.  I've already tried many different suggestions from friends and websites.  

I don't know anymore.  

I've even taken time away from them, to do stuff for me.  Self care and mental health care, and nothing.  

Oh, Wolfman's potty training success?  Nope, this week he hasn't come to us at all.  Just does his business in his underwear.  

It's like they don't care.  They like getting yelled at.  We give them attention.  Read to them, play with them.  Take them to the parks.  Take them outside. We recently introduced time out which works for night night time and other times that they act out, but it doesn't have the same affect for bedroom destruction.  

I feel like I'm breaking.

Wednesday, March 23, 2016

Respect is Earned

"There is a notion that children should inherently respect their parents; however, I don't agree with this. I think we as parents need to earn--not expect or demand--the respect of our children. The universe has entrusted them to our keeping for their most vulnerable years, and we need to have respect for that responsibility above all. 
"Indeed, I think it is impossible to demand respect from anyone, whether a spouse, child, or employee. You may get what looks like respect back, but it isn't really respect at all--it's just obedience, and probably resentful obedience at that. Learn to recognize and appreciate the difference." ~ Debra Macleod, The New Vesta Home, 130.

Tuesday, March 22, 2016

Poopie Break Through!

Wolfman is finally pooin in the potty!  It's like he just woke up yesterday and decided to do it.  Almost two months of potty training and he's been accident free for several days.  Soon, we might be able to start night training.

Thursday, March 17, 2016

Sending a Birthday Thank You

After Warrior's second birthday, my husband and I are going to send a picture of the birthday boy, along with a thank you card, and flowers to the NICU and PICU teams that cared for him during those crucial days.  

We are very thankful for the dedicated staff members at Dublin Methodist Hospital and Nationwide Children's Hospital for their skills and care.  For everyone involved, even if their job was just to keep the room clean and sanitized.  

The March Rabby

Well, we're still potty training...there's been some improvement.  Wolfman has no problems peeing when he has to, but he hasn't started pooping yet.  Maybe it's fear, I dunno.  But the other day, I forgot to put his seat down and he almost fell in.  So if he wasn't afraid before, he probably is now.  Way to go, Mom.

So that's been fun.  We're waiting until he's poo trained before we start night training him.

Little-by-little!

The Spring Equinox is nearly upon us, but we've been too sick and snotty and yuck to really be able to enjoy the nice weather...or to perform my March Deep Cleanse of the house.  I've mostly been detoxing and upping the Vit C, and all that jazz.  Get all of us healthy again.

The most that I've done with the kids is make spring and Equinox coloring pages with them, and talk to them about the March Hare.  I have a picture of him taped to the wall next to my laptop.  So my kids get excited when they see him, even if it's mainly the excitement of seeing a bunny.  Warrior calls him the "Rabby", and Wolfman says, "March Rabbit."  "It's not a hair, mommy, it's a rabbit."  lol.

Come Equinox, I'll be making Irish Lamb Stew, bread, and carrot cake.  The kids are also getting little pails with yogurt bites, a chocolate egg, and a stuffed bunny.  I also am going to a public ritual with a friend, like last year.  Only this time, it'll be with a different Druid group.  This one will be honoring Artemis and Hephaestus, instead of Eostre, according to their Facebook invite.

Then I hope to get out to a park sometime from the 20 - 22.  And I want to talk to them about spring and make arts and crafts.  Hopefully we'll all be over this stupid cold.  Yuck.

I hope yall have a healthy equinox!