"Hello, this may sound like an odd question, but how do you find time for children, cooking cleaning and religion? I feel like all I do all day is sleep and feed Charles."I told her that with each of my boys, I barely remember those first few months! I know with Wolfman, I slept whenever he did, and sometimes during feedings--just little naps. Couldn't tell you how often I fell asleep feeding Warrior!
Sleep deprivation, crabbiness, and a few times I plotted my husband death...until I realized that if I did that, I'd be a single mom... (j/k...maybe ;-) ).
"Lol. I just feel stuck I guess. Perhaps overwhelmed. I wanted to do.something with my time off I guess my expectations were way too high."
Baby Bootcamp; no rest, no play, no relaxation for the new parents. So I gave her some tips, things that I did/do, that might help her connect with her path again and keep some sanity.
- I keep my shrines and altars in the room that I spend the most time in, in sight. That way, whether I'm feeding, changing a butt, or whatever, I can look to it. Mine provide me with calm, clarity, energy, and encouragement. A little slice of sanity.
- I kept an altar in their room, one to protect them, and two to give us strength, peace, and energy. Over time, I put it higher and higher, til it sits above their door.
- I kept a book and notebook in the bathroom...course when the kids got mobile, well, bathroom privacy became a thing of the past.
- She could read while feeding him.
- My husband was more than happy to let me get away for an hour or so, so I could read, study, practice, and meditate.
- Utilize that time you have when the kids finally do have a bed time!
- House chores and cooking are spiritual for me, sacred--important tasks to provide my self, family, and Deities/Spirits with a clean, safe, and happy home. I'd light a candle or put on a veil and/or apron as ritual garb, and grab my magikal tools to perform these tasks. As long as my cleaning potions. Some home made, some simply charged with intention.
Although I told her that eventually things will even out, routines will be set, and she'll be used to being drained all of the time. She'll adapt to life as a parent, and discover what works for her to reconnect to her path.
What things have you done in order to keep connected to your spiritual path? Any tips or advice?