Sometimes I really think my parents don't remember what it's like having kids. Or maybe we just drove them to insanity, I dunno. That's possible, after all, I'm the reason why my uncle doesn't have kids. I was a terror, really lucked out with number 1. Hopefully number 2 won't be a mini me. I got a dose of mini me when I was a teen and had to baby sit my cousin. She was a brat brat brat brat brat! Just like I was. She's not anymore. Neither of us...I dunno, I still have my bratty moment. Even at near 30.
Anyway, so yesterday, at 7 am, my step mom sent me a text reminding me about her birthday party later that evening. Okay. (As a note, my step mom didn't come into my life until I was 8, so she has some excuse....some. She also doesn't have kids and doesn't know what it's like being pregnant. Some excuse.) Throughout the day I dealt with a whiny, fussy teething 1-year-old and all the fun perks that comes with pregnancy: mood swings, forgetfulness, exhaustion, incontinence, food cravings, etc, etc.
I think I may have been napping around the time of her birthday party. Point is, I forgot until this morning, when hubby said that my dad sent a text. He wanted to know why I didn't come to her party. It was kind of a bitchy text, too. I can understand that. How does a person forget a family members birthday party, after all?
So I asked him if he forgot what it's like raising young kids.
That's no excuse.
Oh, really? I gave him my reasons.
He recanted and changed his approach from bitchy to "I was just wondering if you were invited."
Okay, dad. Whatever.
I run into this kind of stuff with my mom, too. Of course she's also menopausal and it's not exactly fun to combine a pregnant woman with a menopausal woman. Lots of clashing. Lots of hormones. When I'm around her I'm not allowed to be hormonal, I have to be happy and grateful all the time. I also should be keeping my son up and teaching him non-stop because kids at his age should already be talking. He's one. Her only example of how a kid his age should be speaking is my gifted niece. Little girl is seriously gifted. She was speaking in full sentences and understanding them before she was one. That's what my son has to compete with, concerning grandma. It's unfair, I know, but that's just how my mom can be.
Course in my house, he'll get it when he gets it. When he's ready, he'll talk. He's already proven that he knows a lot of words and what they are, he just doesn't say them as often. Instead he chooses to say "cat", "apple", "dada", "mama", "up", and so on. We work with him, but I also want learning to be fun. No pressure. Plus when he's two, I want to try ABCmouse. Kids' got some years to learn what he needs to learn. But he also needs his naps!
Nap time is a godsend, especially at this stage, for both my son and my womb. She doesn't seem to understand that. Plus, Lycan's going through a growth spurt and needs his naps. Otherwise he's fussy. He maybe perfect with grams, but only because she spoils him.
Yeah, the grandparents are an interesting bunch. I think their memories are going. Maybe they're a tad senile? I'm sure this is something that many novice and veteran parents have to deal with: how the grandparents would do it....because they don't remember what it's like actually raising kids. :-)