Saturday, August 12, 2017

Gonna Get an Early Start!

Today, we figured out the Halloween costumes and have a plan of when we're buying them all, so we're not doing something last minute.  Although last year, it worked out, because Wolfman went as Blaze from The Monster Machines and Warrior went as Chase from Paw Patrol.

This year, the boys are going as Dragonball Z's Goku and Vegeta.  Hubby was going to go as either Piccolo or "Princess" Trunks.  But we couldn't find me a Bulma that fits.  To be honest, I'm glad.  DBZ wasn't my choice, not a big fan.  I love DBZ Abridged, but that ain't exactly kid friendly.  I'd definitely argue that DBZ isn't either, especially the earlier episodes (some racist and sexist art).  Hubby watches it in Japanese, with English subtitles every Sunday, so the kids are just enjoying the action.

So the boys are going to match.  As for me and the hubs, we were going to go as Little Red and the Big Bad Wolf, but we've done this theme, back for Wolfman's first Halloween.  And I've done Werewolf Little Red.  So we decided that since I'm getting a Greek dress for rituals, that we'd go a Nymph and Satyr theme.

I'm going with some Greek Goddess of Love costume, with a really pretty brown eye mask, and I'm going to make a crown out of ivy garland.  Hubby is going to wear a black horned eye mask, and I'm going to use copper paint marker to put the same markings from my mask onto his.  Then he'll wear a vest, some jeans, and these hooves that'll fit over his shoes.  Over his chest, he'll wear an ivy sash, with a wooden flute and a plastic wine glass hanging from it.  I'm going to paint the inside of the cup to look like it's stained with red wine.

We're also going to get an early start on Yule and birthday shopping.  This year, Wolfman's 5th is going to be Disney Cars themed, and we also want to get the boys bikes.

Oh, and I met my first Renesmee this week--a little neighborhood girl who lives a couple of apartments down from us.  Someone's mom is a big Twilight fan.  Wolfman was calling her "Resume", lol.  I thought it was funny that she's named for a vampire who's imprinted on a werewolf, and my son's name is short for Lycanthrope--Werewolf.

And lastly, on the Warrior font, this first week of night training went pretty well.  He only had two pee accidents, no poop accidents yet.  And that was Friday and Saturday morning.  So far, he's doing a lot better than his brother did.  Or maybe we are, since we have practice with his brother?

All right, night night time calls.  Time to put these little monsters to bed!

Monday, August 7, 2017

Lovin School

Started teaching the littles.  Been having school for a little over two weeks.  I'm using ABC Mouse, Youtube toddler videos, and activities that I've made for them.  Like, we have ABC flash cards, matching letters, numbers, shapes, and items, like car, trees, etc.  I'm teaching them safety around the house and outside, especially about respecting animals, domestic and wild.  I reward with coloring books, snacks, playing outside, and I've made sticker boards for them.  Everyday, they pick a sticker from their vast collection, and put it on their board.

We were outside Saturday, and the kids saw spider webs and were saying, "Fider webs are fiders homes.  We don't mess with their homes.  Let's go play somewhere else."

I was so proud.  Wolfman looked above the door and say, "Mommy!  Look, there's a one and a six and another six!"  I asked him if he knew what the number was, other than our apartment (which he knows).  He didn't, which I kind of figured since we've only just got into teens, but I told him.  So proud when he pointed that out...and then freaked out the next moment, when Warrior picked up a "buggy flower", as I watched a big ole carpenter bee fly off of the small white flower in his hand.  I had to teach them about staying away from flowers that had insects, especially bees, on them.  Let the bees eat.  Don't bother them, they might sting you.

Basic respect and safety.

Normally, I don't like them picking flowers, but sometimes it's all right, unless we're at the park or walking in the woods.  Don't touch the plants, because mommy's doesn't know what they all are, yet.  There's a board game called Wildcraft that I want to get for my kids.  It's teaches about plants and wild herbs, edible and poisoness.  That way we can learn together!

Plus some of the parks around here offer nature classes for little kids.  I might look into that next year for them.  I wish we had a Spiral Scouts group around here.  I'm always keeping my eyes out for any chapters.  Boy Scouts sounds great--my brother was a scout--but I like the idea of Spiral Scouts better.  Supposedly, it's more Pagan friendly.

Thanks to some preschool pages on Facebook, I'm also getting other ideas for educational activities, like matching letter that spell out their names and sight words.  I also want them to learn how to match colors with the word.  Step by step.

The boys are really enjoying school.  Always asking if it's time for school yet.  Gotta make it fun and enjoyable for them.

Also, we've started night training Warrior...!  Second night in.  Fingers crossed that we won't be needing to buy diapers for a while.

Sunday, August 6, 2017

One Talk Isn't Always Enough

Giving extra thanks to Artemis on this 6th day of August.  Earlier some sick fucking pedophile pulled up to my friend's driveway and showed her young daughter and her 9-year-old friend that he was masturbating.  Luckily, the friend grabbed L by the arm and they ran inside the house.  My friend's since reported it and spread it on Facebook, as did I.

Sick fucks.  Just kill the mother fuckers, they deserve nothing less.

She's had the Stranger Danger talk with her daughter before, yet L still approached the man's vehicle.  So they had another discussion.  I've been doing the same with my kids.  My kids are just so friendly to people.  And my oldest love vehicles.  So it's been challenging, but it gets easier as he gets older. Talking to them about Strangers and why it's important to never approach their vehicles or follow a stranger somewhere, even if they promise them toys, candy, or animals.  If an stranger--person or child--ever offers, yell no, and to come to mommy or daddy immediately.  Never go with them.  Never.  Do not allow them to get close to you.  Grab your brother and run.

We'll also be teaching them the password, too.  That's one thing that my dad always enforced with us, never go with someone unless they know the password.  If they know it, good.  If not, run for help.

Yesterday, I after I told my eldest to stay in front of our window and door while we were in the front of our apartment building (don't usually play out there), he said, "Because of strangers might kidnap us, right?"

"Yes."

"Well, I'll just punch them in the nose."

"No, baby.  A stranger tries to get you to come inside their house or car, or away from us in any way, you need to grab your brother, and come to us.  NEVER get near a stranger.  If they grab you, scream for help."

We do plan on teaching our children self defense, of course, against bullies and creeps, but they're obviously too young to fight off some sick fucking pedophile.   It's best for them to scream for help and run.

It's something that I talk about weekly with my kids.  It's a terrifying thought.  Sadly I've had to have this talk with my husband.  When we're at parks, his nose in his phone.  Like, do you understand how quickly everything can change?  How quickly some sick fuck can lure a child away or snatch them?  Do you understand that?  Get off of your phone and pay attention.

I was sure to show him my friend's message today.  Everyone says I'm paranoid and crazy and a helicopter parent.  Nah, it's call being a responsible parent.  Teach your kids.  Educate your spouse if you have to.  Reinforce these teachings.  Quiz your kids once in a while.  Get your kids into self defense, too.  It could save their lives.


Saturday, July 22, 2017

Teaching the Littles

We recently started looking for preschools for the boys, but ran into problems.  The schools around here, either they're too expensive or are Christian.  So, conundrum.  I wanted them to go, because my SIL's kids are in preschool and they're learning a lot of useful information.  I like that.  I want that.

However, I can't afford that.

I have been teaching them at home.  But in a school environment, with other kids, they're more eager to follow and participate, to listen and learn, than if it's just the three of us.  When they're at my SIL's house, she does some teaching and projects with them, and they love it.

I want that socialization, too.

I was talking with a friend yesterday, who reminded me that when we were kids, there wasn't a preschool (none that our parents sent us to, is what I mean), and we were just fine.  So I've decided to save the money and just do ABC Mouse (finally).  They had a special going on, with a price cut, we finally got it working, on both laptop and the tablet.

Starting tomorrow, we're "going" to school--actually I may plan tomorrow, then start school on Monday.  I'll use that time to actually have a bit more of a learning environment, too.  Practice for if I decide to home school my kids.  Today's common core--only teaching kids how to take tests--crap isn't good enough.  Scares me.  However, teaching starts at home.

I've already gone over Stranger Danger a little bit, and have started teaching them street safety.  I've looked ABC Mouse over a bit, so what they don't teach, I'll fill in the gaps, as well as use some Youtube videos that can explain things better than me.

Basic educational things about their world, safety, nature, etc; plus I'm starting to put together a little something that has to do with Paganism and Magik.  I've been teaching them a bit, but now I'm starting to make activities to enforced the concepts and make it fun.

Depending on how this first week goes, I'll be planning a simple schedule and syllabus to follow.

Speaking of teaching, we took the boys swimming for the first time in a deep pool.  Bought them life jackets, and taught them how to kick.   "Like your walking, keep your feet underneath you!"  Eventually Wolfman got it, but Warrior still needs more practice.  We missed the swimming lessons offered by the YMCA this year, so I don't know how to teach them to hold their breath, but we'll figure it out...either Youtube to the rescue or trial and error.



Eventually, Wolfman understood how to keep himself level, and was able to swim from wall to wall!  So proud of him, my little water baby!  Whereas his brother was content with reclining back on us, like a baby otter, holding onto a ball.

Once Wolfman figured out how to swim, he didn't want to get out.  Just like his mommy.

And last bit of news, we're going to start trying for another kid.  I've stuck to my diet and then some, and have been steadily losing weight.  I'm healthier than I've ever been.   Fingers crossed that we get our girl.  Either way, I'm hoping for a good pregnancy, little to no complications, and a healthy baby.

 If it's a boy, Logan Rhys.  If it's a girl, either Tesla Mindy or Rylee Hester.

~)O(~

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Grandparent Rant and Nightmare

Did ya know that when you teach your child about safety, it's called "Helicopter Parenting"?  Because I sure didn't.  I was at my mom's last week, and I was teaching my sons how to pet a cat--treat the animal with respect.  Where not to touch, how to pet them, they're not a dog, how to tell if they're annoyed, and when to leave them alone, and such, and my mom laughed and called me a Helicopter Parent.

....

Um, what?

That's not what helicopter parenting is.  That's flippin plain old parenting.

Just...  Deep breath.

So I had a nightmare this morning that I'm not going to go into detail about, but I dunno.  Rattled me.  I'm trying to look at it symbolically, but I can't.  I can only look at it literally, which might be the point.  My subconscious is a fucked up place sometimes....but hey, whatever gets your attention to things that need to change, right?  Just wish it wasn't a dream that put my kids in danger and made me have a panic attack in dream.  Waking up, heart pounding and stuff. I was so angry in it.  So frustrated and hurt and panicked.

Things need to change, I see that.  Best that these nightmare situations happen in dream, than real life, though.

Friday, May 19, 2017

Another Proud Pagan Mama Moment!

After I saged, cleaned, and cast healing spells for the house (stomach virus), I went upstairs to meditate at Poseidon's shrine during the storm (utilize that wonderful charged energy), instead The Vinny Man (aka Warrior) woke up from his nap and decided to slightly, delightfully, derail my plans.

We sat by the open window, enjoying the cool breeze from the storm, and I taught him a little about my spiritual tradition--a bit about how Zeus is in the sky and creates lightning and thunder, and how Poseidon is the rain and the river outside of our house. It was really cute hearing him rephrase everything I was teaching him. 

Lightning would flash and moments later, thunder would rumble, and he'd gasp, excitedly saying, "That's Theus!"

One night, when the storms were scaring Wolfman, my husband told the boys that it was nothing to worry about, just the Gods playing hockey.  Since Wolf's been to a hockey game, it really resonated with him, and helped him not be afraid.  We taught them about a few deities who're associated with the sky and storms, and basically said that it was a friendly game between Team Zeus and Team Thor.  The lightning was one of the teams scoring.  

Interesting and fun instead of scary.  

Monday, May 1, 2017

Happy Third, Little Man!

Long time, no post!

We celebrated Warrior's birthday with a Finding Dory theme, and a trip to the zoo afterwards.  The kids had a blast!  And for once, I wasn't a ball of bitchy stress.  I was able to enjoy myself for both events.


This time the cupcake cake was from Kroger and it was surprisingly better than Walmart!  I may not have a reason to ever return to Walmart!

The favor cups were filled with Dory sticks, bubbles, plastic sea animals, Dory graham crackers, swedish fish, cookies n cream goldfish, and my mom added suckers, skittles, and chocolate covered pretzels.  For the two babies, I made cups with stickers, bubbles, graham crackers for the parents, and yogurt bites and cereal melts for the babies.

It was a great turn out.  All of the cousins were in the house this birthday!  It was pretty sweet.  We were going to have his birthday on the 29, but my brother had a Call to Arms ceremony that day.  So so he could come, I moved it instead to the 22nd, which worked out for my SIL who lives in WV.

Then it was off to the Columbus Zoo and Aquarium, for a Warrior milestone!  Although the boys were more into the vehicle props and their first train ride, than they were the animals...



...Until we got up close and personal with the manatees....  then it was allll about the manatees and stingrays.


And of course, them wanting to go to my Uncle's to go fishing in his pond.  My kids, for sure.  lol.  it was a good time.  We only saw about half of the park, but the boys are eager to go back, if only for the train....we'll see the rest of the park.

Ask them what their favorite animals are though and they'll still respond with cats and dogs.  They like what they like!

If you observe, have a good May Day, Beltane, and Samhain!